“The best way to avenge yourself is to not be like that.”—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 6.6“
“How much better to heal than seek revenge from injury. Vengeance wastes a lot of time and exposes you to many more injuries than the first that sparked it. Anger always outlasts hurt. Best to take the opposite course. Would anyone think it normal to return a kick to a mule or a bite to a dog?”—SENECA, ON ANGER, 3.27.2
If someone treats you rudely, how do you think you will react?
I used to be angry at those who treated me indifference or rude. In fact, my voice will grew louder.
As time passed, it seems that getting loud or angry isn’t going to solve any problem. Perhaps even it’s a perception of you thinking the person is rude.
Instead of having the thought of being disrespected, think of the person who is doing the act. Perhaps he or she has a bad day and something just happened. Or perhaps he or she is preoccupied with thoughts. Or he or she is running out of time.
Being able to objectively achieve your goals without getting angry is harder than you think especially facing humans. You are just proving everyone that you can’t control your emotions and showing anger proves them right.